Dr. Haim G. Ginott (1965, 2003)
2018-08-08
BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD Dr. alice Ginott & Dr. H. Wallace Goddard (enchachum.com)
Chapter 1
Chapter
5
Code Feelings
Of Feelings
Respond to
300-
behavior feelings
Strong feelings
Can't
@normal
Listen
Responsibility
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
Chapter 4
Praise ☆☆
Threats
Authority →
Brevity'
chargeter,
effort.
DQ
personality accomplishments
Bribes
Lying
•possible
solution
Criticism
ww
problem
Guidance
88
reassurance
of
Minor
mirror
Reinforce
-
mishaps
Values
Chapter 6
alarm
clock
Realistic
A time limits
③Breakfast
-
acknowledge
feelings
Realistic
clothing
Helping>nagging
Warm welcome:
statement questions
Bedtime:
Cozy Conversations,
time together
Parents don't need
permission to live
TV: be mindful,
Support alternatives
sympathy,
understanding
Chapter 7
Jealousy
→ realistic
-
accept anguish,
help find words
words > symptoms
Unlock
Feelings
Show me
how
are.
you
Provide
alternative
actions
angry
I'll watch.
минито
8
Overprizing,
favoritism rivalry
Compassion:
Love.
neutral eye, Uniquely,
Sympathetic
not uniformly
tongue
Life's end
OK to grieve, mourn
avoid euphemisms
Chapter 8 anxiety
8 - abandonment
Never threaten
Prepare
Guilt
Don't blame or shame
Just focus on repair
Mistrust or
Impatience
Wait, acknowledge
difficulty
Efficiency is the
enemy of infancy.
Friction between
Parents
Calm discussion
or private time
رااام
Promises
Sarcasm
→prevention:statementsStealingwhy what to doPoliteness&modelFeelings, not just behaviorListening withsensitivity8 BD Mirroringfeelings58voice, choicePets: child notsolely responsibleConflict: respect,humorFoodClothesHomeworkUpsetEmotionalfirst aid:mirrorfeelingsThe need tobe lovedPermissiveness vs.Children need outletsfor their energyNot a battleof willsFocus on child'sdesires/feelingsParents are notfor hitting, andneither are kidschild=Personover-permissiveness - allowingconduct + feelingsHelp> between child Encouraged.& teacher;parents helponly indirectlyMusic: appreciation, $allowanceoutlet for feelingsRRR Teacher: translateIndependence:RR Friends: be in contact, observe phrases.Chapter 9Sex &Human ValuesyourThat is a private actforroom.Trusting & caringrelationshipParents' attitudesياFrom birth: don't stopexploration by mouth,just ensure hygieneToilet trainingnot disgustingClear, KindexpectationsAnswering, i Infoquestions Values:→homeright age is whenthey askHow is ababy made?what doyouHow isit born?think?Both of youneed to getdressed now andfind something elseto play with.Swearing & @#$!respect children's wishes.but set limits & redirect99No judgment,give best info you haveBirth control:help teenager takeresponsibilityinstead oftakingoverFactual, but not necessarilyfull account yet2 Privacy → redirect curiosityChapter 10AllowedForbiddenLimitundesirableactswhat's unacceptableacceptable substituteGrant in fantasysuccinctimpersonal,Wish, limit, substitute, object-focusedhelp expressing resentmentrejection acceptanceDiscipline:✓ Feelings→ Behavior20, Solving problemstogether44 Prioritize rulesto enforce->①5 Listening wisdom:acknowledge feelings,even ifyoudon'tagreeDon't argue with your child'sexperience. Acknowledge it.③ Criticism GuidanceProblem, possible solution④I.. - feelseeග\expectPraise specific acts,not character traitsNo grant infantasyGive children achoice and a voice
